Okay so listen…I’m going to say this because someone has to…forgive yourself, forgive others, forgive those who didn’t even say sorry. Open your heart and be a forgiving person. Not being able to forgive can take a toll on your mental and can cause not only anger but negativity as well.
Yourself: I know we all partake in activities or act in a certain way that we aren’t necessarily proud of. But we have to understand that we are not perfect people and that we make mistakes. It is okay to do something out of our character or make a terrible choice. How else are you suppose to learn if you don’t make mistakes?
Become clear about your morals and values as they are right now, realize that the past is the past, and realize you did the best that you could at the time. Am I saying just act like it never happened? No, not at all. I’m saying acknowledge it and work on moving on. No need to keep being hard on yourself! Once you learn to forgive yourself, it will become natural to forgive other people!
Other people: I think the hardest part about forgiveness is honestly having the courage to forgive another person. Whether that person is your mom, sister, best friend or even a stranger, it is hard to forgive another person. Why? Because most of the time we hold certain people up to a certain standard and once they disappoint us or does something to make us mad we shut down.
I’m letting you know today: forgive anyone who has done you wrong. I know (personally) that it is easier said than done however it is the right thing to do. Holding that grudge against someone is worst than holding a grudge against yourself, it keeps you from excelling personally and cause unnecessary stress.
I’ve struggled with forgiving other people for years. What helped me is:
- Acknowledging the way the situation made me feel
- Recognizing who is being hurt by not forgiving
- Acknowledging the part I might have played in the situation (if any part)
- Acknowledging both positive and negative parts of the relationship
- Understanding that forgiving someone doesn’t necessarily mean forgetting what they did
- Forgiving a person for myself and not for the person
I encourage everyone to practice forgiveness, not for anyone else but for yourself. Not being a forgiving person can really have an impact on your personal growth.
How are you suppose to be a loving and caring person who wants to see growth within yourself if you can’t even forgive someone who hurt your feelings two years ago?
Or how can you practice personal growth if you can’t forgive yourself for a mistake you made five years ago. Let the hurt go and blossom.
But first….forgive yourself.
BY THE WAY:
Just because you forgive someone doesn’t mean you have to continue to treat them the way you once did before they hurt you. You can forgive someone and still not go back to the old day. I’m saying forgive them for the sake of yourself and your heart.